Deciding to send your child to a wilderness program can be an incredibly difficult decision. Figuring out how to get your child to that program can further the difficulty, as the process can be complicated and heart wrenching. Many parents chose to hire a transport service to help navigate this process, though it is often a hard and conflicted choice.
When temperatures are in the 90s, the body isn’t looking for steak and potatoes for dinner. So how do you satisfy the growling stomach with something that is cool and refreshing while being hearty and nutritionally dense? GAZPACHO! This is one of my favorite dishes adapted from my mom’s classic summer recipe. The reception from students and clients in the field entertains me often. More times than not, the raised eye brows and grimaces from the dedicated junk food aficionados are replaced with surprise and delight after tasting the flavors in this chilled soup. Tangy, salty, fresh, spicy… a taste bud extravaganza!
Parents often believe that praise is the key to creating self-esteem in their child. This thinking is so common it deserves some lengthy evaluation.
In Nurture Shock, authors Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman explore many commonly assumed parenting “truths” by looking to emerging research. One of the many topics they look at is the changing concept of self-esteem. They explore the relationship between our culture’s declining regard towards hard work and their research which shows a steady decline in self-worth—this is because hard work often instills a sense of purpose. For example, they concluded that hard work has been replaced by recreation in many American families.
The three competencies of multicultural counseling are an awareness of one’s own assumptions, values, and biases; knowledge of the worldviews of culturally diverse groups and individuals; and skills to determine and apply culturally appropriate intervention strategies. I can think of no better way to approach the subject of treating transgendered students than to share a story that that highlights the first cultural competency. This story was candidly told to me by the Co-Owner & Clinical Director of Evoke Therapy Programs, Dr. Brad Reedy.
Food is an integral part of wilderness life at Entrada. Clients cheer for restock and I’ve seen all manner of festivities take place on “Meat Night”. As variety is the spice of life, we try to incorporate this theme to break up the standards of Beans and Rice. We work closely with our produce supplier to provide seasonal fruits and vegetables to augment some of our standard items. Clients generally receive Bell Peppers, Onions, Zucchini, Garlic, Carrots, Salad, Bananas, Apples, and Oranges on restock days (Tuesday and Friday). Over the past year, we’ve had Kale, Brussel Sprouts, Asparagus, Cauliflower, Broccoli, Broccoflower, String beans, Yams, Beets, Shallots, Corn, Potatoes, Butternut Squash, and Yellow crook-neck Squash. For fruit, we’ve had Pineapples, Watermelon, Peaches, Nectarines, Mangos, and Apricots. I was able to personally go and pick the apricots from an organic orchard a ½ mile from our office.
I’ve encountered this question many times over the last fifteen years—from friends and relatives, to college professors, and parents of clients.
Don’t judge a book by its cover. Cauliflower is often over-looked as a boring vegetable – not in this recipe! We made this at the Oasis this week while exploring what it means to cook for others. The act of giving to our peers, friends, family can change our mood and sense of self with just a quick sauté and dash of salt!
The relationship between communication, connection and self-worth
I had the wonderful experience of being trained in Marriage and Family Therapy [MFT] at Loma Linda University. Part of that training included observation from a one-way mirror or reviewing video recordings of my therapy sessions with professors and supervisors. Often, my professor and I would watch clients on the video recordings addressing a variety of complaints and life problems, and my professor would pause the tape and ask me what I saw. In peeling back the layers, I always seemed to arrive at the conclusion that the origin of their struggles stemmed from poor or low self-esteem. He would follow with this challenge: “How do you raise esteem in a client?” His idea was that a relationship with an unconditional source, such as God, was the key. The question about how to engender self-esteem in others and especially in our children has been at the forefront of my mind ever since.
I have been working with Evoke Therapy Programs at Entrada now for about 6 months and I am increasingly grateful for the company, the people who work there, and the opportunities that are provided for staff and clients to learn and grow. I am especially thankful that as we go about this journey that we are allowed, and even encouraged, to live outside the box.
This Father’s Day I was reflecting on my clients in the field, my relationship with my own children as well as my Dad. I have heard countless young adult male clients talk about their fathers being on pedestals. Pedestals of emotional stability, stoic independence, financial success, and in general, power. I even remember one client drawing his father on top of a pedestal, while a young man stands at the bottom staring up at the ladder believing its impossible to reach that height.